Hearing the word “kinky” brings a lot of winks and numerous intenders. Often, anyone who announces the word indicates its lewd undertones. But what is kinky all about in its most barebone meaning? In this post, let’s uncover not just its dictionary definition but how it’s applied to various situations in the kinky world of men!
What Does Kinky Mean?
Kinky is an informal term suggesting something is uncommon, bizarre, or out of the ordinary. It generally refers to one’s sexual preferences, behavior, or 
clothing. Kinky can also describe hair — but we’re not talking about hair in this post, are we?
To be clear, in the realm of kinks and kinky things, kinky is anything provocative, erotic, and naughty. It may be deviant or indecent by society’s (very old, very prejudiced) standards. But when anything kinky is done within respect, boundaries, and consent, it’s all fair game.
What Is a Synonym for Kinky Slang?
There are numerous synonyms for the kinky slang. The list below are just some of them.
Unnatural- Weird
- Fetish
- Strange
- Eccentric
- Debauchery
- Quirky
- Unconventional
- Licentious
- Salacious
- Vagary
Unnatural
Remember, each word can be used in both positive and negative manners. Plus, not all “negative” terms automatically pertain to something unpleasant or unfavorable. This is the case when the term is used in the kinky universe. For example, the word “unnatural” is a synonym for kinky as it involves unusual sexual activities. There’s nothing wrong with trying new things, particularly if it comes with benefits such as deepening couples’ relationships or exploring sexual tendencies to feel liberated.
What Is Kinky Sex?
Ah, now we’re onto the most exciting part! Kinky sex is an umbrella term for any pursuits, behaviors, and interests outside of the expected or traditional sexual encounters. There are other prerequisites for kinky sex, namely: consent, limits, and mutual pleasure.
Common examples of what’s considered kinky sex between men are:
- Roleplaying (men in uniforms, superhero costumes, or as monsters/beasts)
- Manhandling or physical impact (choking, slapping, biting)
- POV sex tape or DIY porn
- Bondage or Shibari(spanking, whips, blindfolds)
- Public or outdoor sex
- Dom/Sub
- Threesomes/Orgy
How to Be Kinky
The first step is to think outside what’s considered normal. If missionary is normal and common, think of tying your partner to the bed and blindfolding them while doing the do in the same position. A flair for being kinky is the secret ingredient that spices up your sexcapades.
How to be kinky will depend on your personal inclinations and circumstances. Your considerations will also change depending on your relationship status. When you’re in a serious relationship with someone, you can’t just focus on your kinky desires. You have to mull over your partner’s (or partners’) wishes too.
Follow these basic steps to discover your kinky side:
1. List your kinky desires
1. List your kinky desiresSkip over anything common. Think of those you’re curious about or want to try but never had the chance to. If you have a beau, ask him to do the same. Compare your lists. Go over any kink you don’t share and deliberate whether to include them or not. Be sure not to pressure anyone while finalizing the collated list.
2. Put more details on the kinks
If you wrote “blindfold,” be more specific. Why’s it appealing to you? What type of blindfold? In what position will you be comfortable? Do you want to roleplay with a blindfold on or simply just wear a blindfold while doing your go-to sex position? Answering these questions will help you figure out what specific kinky activity you’re after. It will also make the next steps easier.
3. Plan your kinky activity
Once you decide the what’s of the kink, plan when and how to do it. I suggest not getting too excited and doing something extreme right away. If you’ve never sailed the kinky river before, don’t go diving into extreme kinks like 24-hour Master-Servant play or blood play. Your inexperience in these areas will only put you in danger.
Try these beginner-friendly kinky plays first and slowly move to something more intense.
- Sudden deep-throating or pushing your sub’s head into your crotch so they choke on your cock.
- Doggy style with hair pulling, spanking, or mild choking.
- For those with humiliation kink, sprinkling degrading comments during intercourse or whispering at random times to initiate sex or edge partner.
I’ll remind you again that every kink activity must be mutually agreed upon before its commencement. Always prioritize consent and safety.
How to Build a Kinky Sex Room
You and your partner may be into the kinky stuff — but that doesn’t mean you should give your neighbor a free show. Plus, in this economy, who would want to pay high bucks to rent a room to explore your kinky side? It’s not only expensive, it’s also very inconvenient. So, here’s how to build your very own kinky sex room.
But first, why should you dedicate a room for your kinky activities? Immersion and liberation. It’s conditioning you and your partner that once you step inside the kinky sex room, you’re free to explore your innermost desire, no matter how debauch they may be. This room will also be critical once you try your hand at kinky plays that demand distinct separation of personalities. For instance, in a Master-Slave roleplay, before entering the kinky sex room, your lovers, after closing its door, you’re now master and slave, no questions asked.
Don’t worry, you’ll only need the basic tools and furniture to get your kinky sex room set up.
1. Pick your main kinks
Many have the false notion that all sex rooms or dungeons should be BDSM-esque — dark, imposing, and littered with whips and chains. This isn’t true at all. Depending on your primary kinks, you’re free to choose how to style or decorate your kinky sex room.
For example, if you want to roleplay as a Victorian Prince with a Page servant, then you can fashion the room with silk, ornate furniture, and drapery. You should also devote a walk-in dresser where you can change into Victorian costumes.
Meanwhile, if you’re a pleasure dom or a pillow prince, you can fill the whole room with fainting couches or one Caesar bed (96 by 84 inches).
2. Divide the room based on space and usage
Get back to your kink list and consider what you want to commit more time to learning and exploring. Surely, the “fucking” area should eat most of the space. Here’s where you spend most of your time. In case you want to be a bondage master, for instance, you’ll need to make space for bondage gears such as slings or mechanical thrusters.
My advice? Your kinky sex room should always have “For Making Love” and “Storage” areas.
3. Decide which are permanent and not
After knowing which deeds are done in which areas, shop around for the products, toys, and tools you’ll need. Say you just want to try bondage at some point but it’s not your priority. Then, you can save space by opting for portable slings instead. Portable gears can be hidden when not needed so you can use the free space for other explorations.
Always stock up on necessary items such as condoms, lubes, tissues, and even water.
Kinky Products for Gay Men
Let’s delve into some excellent sex toys to jumpstart your kinky journey as a gay man:
Anal Beads
Anal beads are just that — beads you can insert in your bussy. They have different designs but are commonly a string of beads. Unlike butt plugs, anal beads stimulate from the inside and don’t rely on making you feel “full” inside. They are perfect for beginners as the beads let kinksters adjust. The beads can be one size or increase in size as more is inserted.
If you crave something more intense than beads, butt plugs come in a variety of options.
How to Use Anal Beads for Kinky, Intense Orgasms!
- Prepare and clean yourself first. Choose anal-specific lubesas they are kinder to the rectum.
- Then, relax and be aroused. Lube up your finger and rim. Be patient when loosening the area. Ready the beds and coat them with lube as well.
- Simply tugging the anal beads inside and out can intensify you cum time.
Prepare and clean yourself first. Choose Jack-Off Tools
Masturbators are nothing new. As they look like oversized flashlights, these tools are also called fleshlights. They mimic real mouths, vaginas, or anal anatomy. Cock is inserted into the product to simulate BJs or areal penetration.
How to Use Jack-Off Tools for Kinky Solo or Partnered Play!
Finger the fleshlight and apply a great amount of lubricant.- Wind yourself up and lube your cock.
- Insert your penis into the fleshlight and enjoy!
- Men can also use the fleshlight to stimulate their cocks while being penetrated by their partner from behind,
Finger the fleshlight and apply a great amount of lubricant.Penis Sleeves
Penis sleeves or extenders are worn over your natural cock to make it girthier, longer, or both. Men with erectile dysfunction can use these sleeves to achieve satisfying sexual experiences. The best penis sleeves are made of medical-grade silicone that imitate the texture and feel of areal penis.
How to Use Penis Sleeves for Prolonged Kinky Scenes!
- Put your penis into the sleeve, it can be flaccid or half-erect.
- Check if it is in place. It will depend on the securing feature of the toy (stretchy ring, flexible hole, or harness). So, make sure to read the instructions for the product.
- Squeeze lube inside and outside of the toy. Thrust away!
Put your penis into the sleeve, it can be flaccid or half-erect.
