As gay men, selecting the perfect dildo is always a setup for the most pleasurable experiences.
This is a comprehensive guide for you that lets you in on all the crucial details needed for choosing your first dildo.
We’ll explore factors such as size selection(the good and the bad), and the different shapes and materials, providing you with expert advice and essential considerations.
Whether it’s your first time and you’re seeking gentle stimulation or you’re an experienced dildo user seeking intense penetration pleasure or something in between, this article will serve as your trusted companion to help you navigate through choosing the best dildo just for you.
Introduction
When faced with the question of what the next step to take when it comes to experimenting with sex toys, the subject of dildos always comes to the forefront for gay men.
The choice of the right fit for a dildo can be a challenging one to make. Well, as challenging as taking in the real thing for the first time.
Dildos for gay men come in many different shapes and sizes and sometimes it can be tempting to want to bring our fantasies to life without due process.
You might think taking in an 8 incher is the best for your pleasure but in reality, your body just isn’t ready to take all that heat.
Trying out a new dildo might be able to increase your ass stretch limit or create one! Whichever the case may be, this article serves as a guide to all of your dildo questions and horny needs.
Importance of Dildo Selection for Gay Men
Overview of Selection Factors
One thing that we all should start with accepting is that when it’s the first time our butts just can’t comprehend what’s going on just yet.
Hence dildos for first-timers can be painful just like bottoming for the first time and it can sometimes be a discouraging process for gay men to explore anal sex with partners or with pleasure tools.
But there are ways to make it go as seamlessly painless as possible. With dildo selection, you have to consider factors such as its intended use, your real-time penetration tolerance, materials in which these toys are made, and of course size!
For someone who is just after the good old back-and-forth thrust sensation, your choice would differ from someone else on the lookout for a prostrate-stimulating experience.
Size Matters
We can agree with the ladies on this one, size matters. It has to be the right fit. With dildo sizes, the right choice can either form the foundation for countless orgasms or be the root cause of discomfort and pain.
Size is important in this situation and the perfect approach to making the best decision exists.
You see, there are two aspects to sizing a dildo. The girth(length) and the circumference(width).
How you like it should lead you to choose the length and circular width. Do you like it long and thin or short and muscular?
Just think back to the last time you had sex with your gay partner.
Which size left the best pleasurable impact or if there isn’t much on the list to choose from you can try out a smaller length of your erection size for starters.
If you’re not in a walk-in dildo store it can be more of a challenge purchasing without a size estimate in mind.
For better understanding, when we say the circumference of a dildo, we mean the size measured around the dildo, while the diameter refers to the distance across the dildo from its widest point.
Be sure to look out for that detail with online purchases and if all checks out fine, you just bought a one-way ticket to Pleasure Island.
Pleasure Impact of Size
Dildos all come in varying sizes, colors, and shapes and this is because everyone has varying sexual needs that need to be met.
There are two major types of dildos known by experts and dildo users alike. The realistic dildos and the non-realistic ones.
The realistic ones of course like the name suggest are more human with the penis cap just right and the veins in all the right places.
Plus, they feel realistic too; mostly silicon. The nonrealistic ones come looking like a wonderful art piece.
Oddly shaped and often for specific purposes only like prostate stimulation. The non-realistic dildos often come with extra features like bells, lights, extra curves, and more.
The design is a big contributory factor to how pleasurable the impact can be. Sometimes designs do not fully represent a stated length as much as you’d expect.
You will find out that just because the total length of a dildo is 9 inches long, does not mean that the insertable length will be 9 inches in total.
You’ll find that sometimes the balls on realistic dildos take up space too and some aren’t as moveable as real balls so they can get in the way of the length.
If you’re a gay man only in search of a dildo that’s comfortable enough for thrust movement then much length shouldn’t be what you’re after but if that isn’t where your kink lies take out time to get the right girth and circumference dimensions better suited for you
Choosing the Right Size
First things first, remember lube is your friend. Moving forward with that info, your first dildo size should be the one you’re most comfortable with.
It’s that simple. Start with a visible size of what you have taken in before or what looks safe enough for you. You can opt for a smooth textured or a realistic one.
For thrust pleasure, settle for a straight, fixed-width dildo. This will give you the sensation of a good penetrative fuck that you desire.
For a more stimulating experience during entry or for your ass walls, go instead for a straight dildo with either a ribbed or studded feel.
A gentle twist and turn motion with this will be most satisfactory and of course, length is up to you to decide.
If you instead choose to beat an already existing ass stretch capacity then you should be looking for a dildo size that is both long enough to reach your prostrate, wide enough for stretch limit, and curvy enough to stimulate that pleasure gland.
Each orgasm needs are different so be sure to only settle for what works for you.
Risks of Incorrect Size
It is already established that size does matter, but now we need to make a little emphasis on why.
The incorrect size of a dildo when used can cause more harm than the intended good and pleasure you’d hoped to achieve.
A larger dildo can lead to tears and discomfort and a dildo a few sizes too small can in rare cases get stuck in your butt.
Nobody wants that as that can lead to an emergency if not handled properly.
For whatever purpose a dildo is intended to be used, a perfect fit is always the way to go or at the least go for dildos within the limit of one size smaller or one size up the notch than your regular.
Shape Dynamics
Stimulation Effects
Dildos can provide internal stimulation to the G-spot, prostate, or other parts of the anus when used during anal sex acts.
For some people, it can be used for mind stimulation and foreplay as it can play a psychological role in arousal.
That’s why they are so popular. When used correctly it’s hardly ever a negative addition to gay sex scenes.
Beginner-Friendly Shapes
Common beginner-friendly dildo shapes for gay men include the Slim and straight, Tapered or ribbed, Small or medium-sized dildos, Curved and Egg-shaped or butt plugs
Material Insights
Common Dildo Materials
Whatever you choose, always keep in mind that body safety is most important. You want to always ensure that your dildo is made out of non-porous materials such as silicone, glass, and stainless steel.
Anything other than that is not considered safe for insertion.
It is common to worry with the mention of the use of glass as dildo material but incidences never occur unless used in extreme and unguided hardcore scenes.
So, glass dildos are generally safe under careful use just like any other.
Glass dildos are highly durable and safe. So, in a case where you have a partner allergic to silicon, you have other options to explore.
Material Safety and Maintenance
The first rule of engagement is “never share a dildo”. There are no exceptions to this. For your anal dildo care it’s best to always;
- Give it a proper wash before and after use: Follow the manufacturer’s cleaning instructions if there is any. Always wash in lukewarm water. Wash it with a small amount of mild, antibacterial, unscented soap. If it is made of silicon you can choose to purchase silicon sex toy cleaning solutions.
- Store safely: after a proper clean leave it out to air dry on a clean surface. Now the question is where would be the perfect storage location? A cool, dry, and private location. Note that inappropriate storage places include exposing it to direct sunlight and places with high humidity.
Check out our previous blog post on sex aftercare for gay men
Additional Factors
Texture, Flexibility, and Features
Dildos can be quite flexible and as you get more comfortable with its use you become a more experienced gay dildo user.
Over time you’ll notice that you begin to crave even bigger dildo sizes than you’re normally used to.
That’s not to encourage extremism or to outrightly start with a big dildo. You’ll only be setting yourself up for hurt.
Aside from size, some dildo designs come with kinky features like lighting, ribbed texture, and mechanical thrust movement.
All of which can complement the pleasure ride. Imagine just being able to kneel in doggy pleasure without a partner.
There are also designs for toe-curling and mind-blowing prostate orgasms that target the p-spot gland or g-spot for orgasms in gay men.
Hardcore features also exist like dildos built for anal widening, elongating, or strap-on sex.
Impact on Overall Experience
The use of dildos during gay sex serves as a means to an end. Dildos were designed to enhance sexual experiences and to serve as a means to explore kinks.
When used correctly they can lead to constant increased satisfaction. A sexually satisfied gay man is always at the apex of his game.
There is nothing wrong with the use of dildos when used correctly.
Conclusion
As gay men, it is always best to start slow when it comes to anal sex.
If it’s your first time or you’re experimenting before trying out sex with a real partner there are smaller-sized dildos to help you build a tolerance or you can try using butt plugs or what we call trainer dildos, till you build confidence.
A bigger-sized dildo can equate to more pleasure but that only happens when your body is used to it and your muscles are better receptive to large sizes.
I mean who doesn’t want an 8inch pound? But the best way is to build yourself up for it and in no time you’ll be releasing cum shots in mind-blowing orgasm pleasure.
