There’s a large variety of people who might be into kink. Gay people, bi people, even... Gasp… straight people. This isn’t about them.
One specific community is often overlooked, though. I’ve been to events and places with plenty of gay men, but not many quite like me.
Transgender people like kink, too. Love it, in fact-and we can actually find some gender euphoria from it.
In my case, I am a transgender man. I was assigned female at birth, and now present and identify as male. I usually look male in my day-to-day life. It isn’t all that complicated.
Keep in mind that I can only really speak for transgender men- I wouldn’t dare speak for all transgender people. I highly recommend speaking to transgender women for yourself, though.
Some of us go on hormones, some of us don’t. In my case, hormones meant a deeper voice, more body hair, and the coveted… clitoris growth.
It almost looks like I have a male penis… well, a very small one. It’s enough to impress some men, though.
Important note, because I’ve had people get it wrong before: testosterone is not birth control.
A transgender man being on testosterone does not mean he can’t get pregnant, so you don’t get to skip the condom just because he’s on hormones. And you should probably use protection anyway, for other reasons.
Go forth and enjoy having sex with trans men, but keep that in mind. Unless some surgery has happened, we can usually still get pregnant.
Transitioning also means surgery sometimes. Top surgery to handle the chest, and bottom surgery to handle the genital area. Many people undergo these surgeries with no complications.
The keyword is sometimes-not all of us go for it. I don’t plan to, but some people like to. What’s important is that the surgeries aren’t necessary… and, if you didn’t know, it’s often quite rude to ask about it.
Sex while transgender, though, can get complicated. There are body image issues, expectations. If I just told you I was male, you would expect me to look VERY different under my clothes.
It wouldn’t be my fault if you assumed wrong, either. You don’t have to keep flirting- just be polite about it.
Pet play, silicone, and kink in general can give trans people a lot of euphoria.
Gender euphoria is the feeling of truly belonging in your gender. Non-transgender people can get this too- maybe you feel extra manly when you’re in leather.
So, how do we partake in kink? Do we like pet play too? What about silicone?
Absolutely. We’re big fans.
What Is Pet Play and Silicone?
Of course, we are familiar with pet play and silicone. But in case we don’t…
Pet play is a kink that has people acting a little animalistic during sex. The appearance of this arrangement depends on the couple and their chosen pet.
Puppies are among the most common petplay pets. With puppies, play often looks like training and tricks. It can mean leading the puppy around on a leash at events, or even having them communicate in whines or barks.
Puppies can also be dominant. Two puppies can even play together. There are a lot of ways to be a pup.
There are other types of pets-there’s also kitty players, pony players, and far more. Personally, I am a puppy in love with a pony. Pony play can mean being of service, and even doing pony shows, like you would with a real horse.
There’s a wide variety of ways to do pet play, whichever way someone finds the most fun and satisfying.
Silicone is a material that a lot of kink gear is made of. I mean… a lot, a lot. It’s got a particular texture that a lot of people are into-similar to how people are into leather.
Smitizen offers a wide range of silicone gear, from pet hoods to full-body suits. The pet-based hoods alone can give you an idea of the variety of pet play there is. Some masks might look more cartoony and fun, and some might look more fierce. Plus, there are all sorts of different animals to choose from.
Several models are based on real male faces or bodies, allowing you to slip into a different identity.
You might already be getting an idea of how transgender people might enjoy pet play and silicone, but I’m happy to explain it further.
Why Do We Like It?
I did my research, trust me… by that I mean, I asked other transgender pet players.
The biggest comment was that, while doing pet play, it feels like there’s less of an expectation of gender. It’s harder to feel bad about your body when you’re in the mindset of something that doesn’t have a human body anyway.
Pet play often comes with a mindset. It can be easy to slip into a pet mindset-only thinking about being a good boy or about the person you’re with. Being in that mindset can be a nice distraction.
As I put it to friends, which they agreed with- no gender, only puppy. We don’t have to worry about being good at being a man, just about being a good boy.
Pet play often comes with praise phrases like “good boy,” which feel great both as a transgender man and as a puppy. At kink events, I’ve also enjoyed being paraded around and shown off as a puppy. Being a show dog helps alleviate body image issues.
Pet play also sometimes involves barking, whining, and other similar behaviors. Some handlers may decide that we aren’t allowed to speak human words. Perfectly fine to those of us who might not like our voice.
Generally, pet play comes with a mindset, one that allows us to forget about all our other worries.
Pet play gear isn’t the only option for silicone, although it is a popular choice. There are plenty of masks and body suits that can allow you to look like a regular man.
Masks and bodysuits like that can allow trans men to really step into the face and body of a cis man. For just as long as we’re in play and gear, we can have a totally male body or face.
A lot of us get euphoria out of using a strap-on, enjoying the simulated feeling of having a penis. Some of these bodysuits go so far as to have a fake dick attached.
In anonymous spaces, wearing gear like a mask can also hide some features we might be insecure about. Facial hair, face shape-all can be hidden with a mask! Nobody has to know our real faces.
So why do we like pet play and silicone so much, as transgender people?
Pet play lets transgender people get into a genderless mindset. We can focus on the scene at hand without worrying about gender at all.
And silicone, especially suits and masks, lets us really feel what it would be like in a different body.
We love to play like this, just like everyone else. Welcome transgender people into your pet play spaces, and enjoy a gender-diverse kink experience.
